David Powlison:
How can we help our friends mature? How can they help us? According to Scripture we grow up by "speaking truth in love" (Ephesians 4:15). That phrase, which over the centuries sadly has become cliché, is quite a challenge to really put into practice. The truth, spoken in love, changes us.
The truth, spoken in love, helps others change. Whoever listens and responds to such words grows in maturity.
"Speaking truth" or "telling the truth" doesn’t just mean a formal, prepared talk; It’s not limited to teaching, preaching, leading a Bible study and the like. It’s meant to characterize every conversation we ever have. Whenever we speak truth in love, we’ll do some good. But when we speak truth without love, or when we speak untruths with love, or when we speak untruths without love, we do harm.
In Friendship Counseling Part I, II, and III, Powlison provides helpful instruction on how to serve our friends, care for their souls, and help them grow in Christ. The three part series is a beneficial read.
It is humbling and encouraging to remember that as the body of Christ, God uses us to build one another up by speaking the truth in love (Eph. 4:15-16).
[HT: Between Two Worlds]