Parents and students, sorry we didn’t have these questions ready for you Saturday night.  Here they are!

QUESTIONS FOR PARENTS TO ASK TEENS

• Let me share with you ways that I have been encouraged about your progress recently.
• Do you have any observations for me as a dad?
• Is there anything I have said or done that would cause you to struggle or you would want to bring to my attention?
• Do you feel that mom or I have treated you unfairly in any situation or circumstance that you would want to bring to my attention right now?
• Have you had any conversation with friends regarding issues or expressing thoughts, which you know I would be concerned about or want to know about? Have you engaged in any activities which you know your mother and I would not approve of since we last met or that you have not informed me about?
• Is there any thought on your mind that you know is wrong but you are having a hard time with?
• Are there any unresolved relational issues among you and this family or your friends?
• What things have been repeatedly on your mind during the past week or two? What have you been thinking about? What things specifically?
• What has been the main focus of your quiet times recently? What are you reading? What are you praying about? Are you benefiting from your devotional times or are you doing them primarily out of obligation?
• How do you feel about your relationship with God right now? Are you feeling passion for him and his kingdom? Is there anything competing for your affections right now that would hinder you from loving God with all your heart? Are you growing in your passion, love and affections for God? How are you seeking to grow in your knowledge of God and your passion for his kingdom?
• Are there any girls/boys that you are having a hard time not thinking about? What are you thinking about them? Do you have any questions about relationships with guys or girls?
• In your relationships with others, are you being a faithful friend according to Scripture? (Prov. 27:6, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend.”)
• Would those friends you are choosing to hang out with presently be considered wise companions? (Prov. 13:20, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”) What are your friends passionate about and why are you drawn to them?
• Have you viewed any inappropriate images, or read any inappropriate articles since we last met? (TV, movies, pictures, internet, etc) How much time are you spending on Internet, TV, movies, ESPN, other?
• How are you being diligent in managing your personal life? Devotional times, chores in the home, schoolwork, budget?
• I want to bring up with you (current weekly issues with spiritual life, relationship to mother, relationship to siblings, relationship to peers).
• What sins are you struggling with and how are you working on them? What have you done to work on your sin area? Do you have you any kind of plan?

QUESTIONS FOR TEENS TO ASK PARENTS 

• Where do you see me growing in my relationship with the Lord?
• Based on my conversations and enthusiasm, what would you say I most passionate about?  Do you think my priorities reflect Matthew 6:33 that I am seeking first the kingdom of God in my life?  In what specific ways would you encourage me to make my relationship with God the highest priority in my life? How would you recommend I pursue growth in my relationship with God?
• Where do you see God at work in my life?
• Have you observed any patterns of sin in my relationships with friends, my relationship with you, or my pursuit of the world that you have been trying to bring to my attention? How well do I respond to you, when you try to bring these questions/concerns to me?
• As you observe my life, is there one particular area that you would say I need to grow in? Can you please share with me examples of where you have noticed this and also help me with a plan to change?
• On a scale of 0-10 (10 = humble and diligent, 0 = independent and defensive), how diligently and humbly do I pursue your correction and counsel? What kind of questions should I be asking and what situations would you like to see me pursuing you regarding any area in my life?
• Do you think that I value your wisdom more than my friend’s opinions? Can you share with me examples of how I am valuing my friend’s opinions too highly? Can you share with me examples of where I am appropriately valuing your wisdom more than my friends?
• Do you have any concerns for me in regards to my choice of companions? Where do you see me being influenced and where would you see me being an influencer?
• How would you describe my attitude toward your authority? In what ways have I grown in showing you and mom my respect? In what ways would you like to see growth in the area of honoring and respecting my parents, and/or other authorities in my life?
• Have I sinned against you in any way and not sought forgiveness?
• How can I grow in serving the family? Is there one person in the family (dad/mom/sibling) that I need to be more intentional with in regards to serving?

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